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Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.

Often attributed to Kurt Cobain

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This line is shared everywhere as a quote from Kurt Cobain (1967–1994), singer and songwriter of the American band Nirvana, whose 1991 album Nevermind brought grunge, a raw, loud style of rock, into the mainstream. It has not been found in his interviews, his lyrics or Journals, the notebooks published in 2002. The idea is much older: the Danish philosopher Søren Kierkegaard wrote in The Sickness unto Death (1849) that wanting to be someone other than yourself is a form of despair.

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Genellikle Kurt Cobain'e atfedilir

Bu söz her yerde Kurt Cobain'e (1967-1994) ait diye paylaşılır. Cobain, 1991'de çıkan Nevermind albümüyle grunge denen ham ve gürültülü rock tarzını geniş kitlelere taşıyan Amerikan grubu Nirvana'nın solisti ve şarkı yazarıydı. Ama bu söz ne röportajlarında ne şarkılarında ne de 2002'de defterlerinden derlenen Journals'da geçer. Düşüncenin kendisi çok daha eskidir: Danimarkalı filozof Søren Kierkegaard, umutsuzluğu incelediği The Sickness unto Death (1849) adlı kitabında, başka biri olmayı istemenin bir umutsuzluk biçimi olduğunu yazar.

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