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They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.

Attributed to Maya Angelou; earliest known: Carl Buehner, 1971

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Often credited to Maya Angelou, but the earliest known version appears in Richard Evans' Quote Book (1971), attributed to Carl W. Buehner, a leader in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. The quotation researcher Garson O'Toole (Quote Investigator) found that Angelou's name was attached in 2003, when a widely forwarded message wrongly credited a set of sayings to her and a newspaper printed it. No record shows Angelou saying it. The idea itself is simple and familiar: the words of a meeting fade, the feeling stays.

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Söylediklerini unutabilirler ama onlara ne hissettirdiğini asla unutmazlar.
Maya Angelou'ya atfedilir; bilinen en eski kaynak: Carl Buehner, 1971

Sıkça Maya Angelou'ya mal edilir; ama bilinen en eski biçimi 1971 tarihli Richard Evans' Quote Book adlı derlemede, Mormon Kilisesi'nin yöneticilerinden Carl W. Buehner'ın adıyla geçer. Alıntıların kaynağını araştıran Garson O'Toole (Quote Investigator), Angelou'nun adının söze 2003'te eklendiğini buldu: Bir dizi güzel sözü yanlışlıkla ona mal eden bir ileti elden ele dolaşmış, bir gazetede de yayımlanmıştı. Angelou'nun bunu söylediğine dair bir kayıt yok. Düşüncenin kendisi ise basit ve tanıdık: Bir karşılaşmanın sözleri unutulur, bıraktığı duygu kalır.

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