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Return to a childhood place and an old staircase may have far fewer steps than memory gave it. The stairs did not need to shrink; your body, stride and point of view changed.

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Nothing about the staircase changes; what changes is the ruler you measure it with. A young child's body is smaller, each step takes more effort, and the climb is remembered at that scale. An adult's longer legs and greater strength make the same stairs feel minor, so they seem to have shrunk even though every step is exactly where it always was.

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Yıllar sonra çocukluğunun geçtiği bir yere döndüğünde, aklında upuzun kalmış bir merdivenin hatırladığından çok daha az basamağı olduğunu görebilirsin. Merdiven küçülmedi; senin boyun, adımın ve dünyaya baktığın yükseklik değişti.

Merdivende hiçbir şey değişmedi; değişen, onu ölçtüğün cetvel. Küçük bir çocuk için her basamak daha yüksektir, çıkmak daha çok güç ister ve tırmanış hafızaya o ölçekte kaydedilir. Yetişkinin uzun bacakları ve gücü aynı merdiveni önemsiz kılar; basamakların her biri hep aynı yerde durduğu hâlde merdiven küçülmüş gibi görünür.

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