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Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow.

Swedish proverb

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In Swedish: 'Delad glädje är dubbel glädje, delad sorg är halv sorg.' The idea is old: in his dialogue On Friendship (44 BC), the Roman statesman Cicero wrote that friendship makes good fortune brighter and lightens misfortune by dividing and sharing it. German has the same pair, 'Geteilte Freude ist doppelte Freude, geteiltes Leid ist halbes Leid', and many other languages have their own version.

Türkçe oku
Paylaşılan sevinç iki katına çıkar, paylaşılan keder yarıya iner.
İsveç atasözü

İsveççesi: “Delad glädje är dubbel glädje, delad sorg är halv sorg.” Fikir çok eskidir: Romalı devlet adamı Cicero, MÖ 44'te yazdığı Dostluk Üzerine'de dostluğun iyi günleri daha parlak kıldığını, kötü günleri ise bölüşüp paylaşarak hafiflettiğini söyler. Almancada da aynı ikili vardır: “Geteilte Freude ist doppelte Freude, geteiltes Leid ist halbes Leid.” Türkçede de benzer bir söz dilden dile dolaşır: “Mutluluk paylaştıkça çoğalır, dert paylaştıkça azalır.”

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